One of the fundamental and basic aspects of modern personal development is the idea of having well formed outcomes in your life. It is very well documented these days, but so very few people actually do use them, and even fewer people create them properly and in a way that is useful.
Having NLP’s Well formed outcomes for your life can create well being in business, our personal lives, in relationships and so much more. So please be as flexible as you possibly can be while reading this; and I don’t mean read it while doing the splits!
In NLP (neuro linguistic programming), goal setting becomes more than just goal setting. We go beyond that and step into the realms of “desired outcome development.” By that, we are going beyond setting goals and moving into the realms of setting outcomes.
As you think about any area of your life that you would like to update or change or plan better for, or if you have an unfulfilled dream or something you are working towards, then creating an NLP well formed outcome can begin to get your unconscious mind and its related processes driving you towards that without you even having to know how.
How do goals and outcomes differ? Goals are general and outcomes are specific. An outcome represents a goal developed with specificity that enables us to have a very clear understanding of what to do.
A well formed outcome enables us to create specific pictures, sounds, feelings and words. Then that image, that outcome activates our abilities and resources for achieving that outcome. The NLP well formed outcome model should have the following characteristics;
1. The outcome should be stated positively in terms of what we want: The human mind does not directly process a negative. You regular readers will have read that idea over and over in previous editions of Adam Up. Have a read through the Adam Up archive for more information on that notion.
2. The NLP outcome is described in sensory based language: In terms of sights, sounds and sensations; what will we see, hear and feel with that outcome. See how we are forming the outcome, crafting it?
3. Ensure that the NLP outcome is self-initiated and self-controlled: It needs to be something that is not reliant on others in any way. Changing others directly lies outside of our control – changing them indirectly by changing ourselves – we can do that!
4. Make your desired outcome appropriately contextualised: When, where, how and with who do you want this outcome? Detail the context.
Many people that I work with and encounter operate in a stimulus/response mode. Something happens, they respond. Something else happens, they respond. Instead of reacting to various stimuli involved, with outcome based thinking, you are looking at how to control your own world instead. Outcome based thinking allows you to decide what you want and shows you how to achieve it.